My first free-form poem

This is my first free-form poem
I feel free writing this with no rhymes or a fixed form
It brought out memories from my childhood days
When I scribbled and doddled with no fear of ratings
The lines above rhymed not because I wanted
I just wrote my thoughts as they arose
Can I embrace my life like this?
Acting right and then accept what comes my way.

One moment at a time


We are sitting by the window sipping tea at TeaSpoon
The sun is hiding behind the clouds this afternoon
Time seems to freeze when we are here
It’s great fun to be together and talk to each other
I read the quote on the glass ,”enjoy life one tea spoon at a time”
And it reminds us to enjoy the life one moment at a time.


One more brick in the wall



Club Contest Speech on 10th Feb 2017, awarded first runner up .

Title : One more brick in the wall

Time : 5 – 7 Minutes


Sometimes we don’t know what we do, even worse; we don’t know why we do what we do! Good evening Toastmasters, guests & contest judges.

Two weeks ago I raised my hand to participate in this speech contest. I don’t know why I did that.

What made me sign up for this contest? What are my chances against these 4 speakers with 5 stars? Michael is a gifted narrator & an animated speaker. Bob can rob your attention with his high-quality words. Russ can impress you with his grace & style. Gladwin can win your confidence just by his stage presence. What’s my strength? Well, do I have any is a better question?

All these questions & arguments drove me crazy as I drove back home from the previous club meeting. By the time I reached home, I had made up my mind. I was determined to quit. I started to mentally draft my apology email to Wayne. I thought of skipping the club meeting today by citing my busy schedule as an excuse. Then I realized, this is my second meeting as a club member. Indians have this peculiar belief about missing the second step of a new journey.  We don’t miss the second day of a new school, second day of new job and second meeting of a new club. I had no choice but to speak!

Once I decided to stay in the contest, now the second challenge gripped my mind. What topic should I choose? What should be my focus? Should I inspire the audience? Or Entertain them or persuade them to adopt my viewpoints. I had umpteen vague ideas in my head, but not a concrete topic in my hand. I was pulling my hairs out despite being scared of losing them. A week went by, I still didn’t have a topic. On Friday night last week, I couldn’t sleep as these thoughts were buzzing in my head.

I sat on a chair, closed my eyes. I took a few deep & deliberate breaths. The thought ripples slowly faded and my mind became placid.

If my goal is to become a better communicator, then why am I resisting this speech? Why am I in stress? Where is my focus? Questions are the answer, I got my answer. My focus was the prize of contest. The prize of winning, the prize of admiration and the prize of appreciation.

Shifting focus on the prize derailed me and sprouted self-doubt in my mind. We all have experienced this in situations such as job interviews, sales presentations, writing exams or IQ tests. Poor performance is the price we pay, when we are preoccupied with the prize.

The moment I focused on my purpose, this speech became just another step in the process of becoming a better speaker. In other words, this speech is one more brick in the wall, not the wall by itself! This analogy was liberating; writing this speech became fun as I had no prize to win.

To achieve our purpose, we need to submit to the process ignoring this shiny object called prize. Process is of paramount importance in every aspect of our lives; whether it is bearing a child, nurturing a relationship, improving health or accumulating wealth. Process is progress!

Becoming an effective speaker too is a process, we just need to show up, stand up & speak up! And that’s exactly what I am doing today. I am glad I did not quit.

Whether you are an amateur or a matured speaker, the prize of appreciation will distract you. It will prevent you from making mistakes, experimenting & learning by doing.

You can see this in action, when you hesitate to take a meeting role or procrastinate delivering a speech or feel reluctant to participate in a speech contest. When that happens, just remember your purpose is more precious than the prize.

Every time we show up, stand up and speak up; we are placing one more brick in the wall and we are one step closer to building the wall.

Same reasons, a new season!


After 7 years of hibernation, I joined a Toastmasters club in Belmont ,California.  I delived my ice-breaker speech recently. Below is the speech script.

Objective : Introduce yourself to the audience

Time : 4 – 6 Minutes


You never get a second chance to make a first impression. I don’t know who said that, all I know is that’s not true in the world of Toastmasters. I delivered my first ice breaker speech in 2003. This is my second chance to make a first impression in my second home club. When I look back and review my life situation between these two ice breaker speeches, I find some similarities & some differences.

Let’s look at similarities first. I had 3 reasons for joining Toastmasters back in 2003.

  1. To become an effective communicator and articulate my ideas clearly
  2. To meet like-minded people who want to improve themselves
  3. To enjoy the act of speaking in public, moving from fear to pleasure

Event today the same 3 reasons catalyzed me to restart my journey with this club. Same reasons; a new season.

Now let’s look at some differences in my life now compared to the year 2003.

  1. I was single back then, now I have a family; a lovey wife Anusha & a lively son Samyak aged 5 years
  2. In the year 2003, I lived in Bangalore, India and visited Bay area on work every year. Now I live in the Bay area and visit Bangalore twice every year
  3. I have lost around 35 pounds of body weight; I have also lost an incalculable amount of emotional weight. I look younger and feel lighter than I used to in the year 2003

From the year 2003 to 2011, I actively delivered speeches in Toastmasters and participated in speech contests. In the words of Jim Rohn, “I worked harder on myself than I did on my job”.

I completed Competent Communicator and Advanced Communicator Bronze manuals. When I took a hiatus in 2011, I was one speech short of completing Advanced Communicator Silver level. After 6 years of hibernation, I am now motivated to reconnect with my voice and shape my thoughts into words.

Today I am restarting my Toastmasters journey with a blank slate, starting from the icebreaker speech. My goal is to complete the competent communicator track by the end of this year.

I like community clubs because of the spirit, commitment & diversity. It’s rare to find these three elements in corporate clubs. That’s why I joined a community club this time. I have attended 2 club meetings here as a guest. The quality of speeches is outstanding.  I am joining HighSpirit Toastmasters club with a high spirit.

As I embark on this journey, I want to remember 3 key learnings from the last decade of my life and use them as a guiding light as I walk ahead.

  1. Perfection is the enemy of execution. Never wait for a perfect script to deliver the next speech.
  2. Progress is made by actions, not merely by intentions. Planning definitely helps, but action brings vision into fruition.
  3. The journey is more important than the destination. Enjoy every step in the path of progress. Don’t lose the moment in search of momentum.


Freedom From The Prison of Feelings


Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts. ~ Og Mandino

  • He irritates me to the core
  • My friend doesn’t make me feel special
  • She brings the demon in me
  • My boss punctures my confidence in meetings
  • My blood boils when people don’t keep their commitments
  • I feel ignored when he doesn’t talk to me for a day

Most of the statements cited above are familiar to us. Either we have uttered them or we have heard someone else do that. Two things stand out from the above lines.

  1. The person saying this is holding the other person responsible for their feelings
  2. There is an underlying assumption that our feelings are remotely controlled by others’ actions

These 2 beliefs can shackle us in the prison of feelings and label us as victims of other people’s behavior. Others’ action definitely can be a stimulus for our feelings, but not the cause! Let’s dig this deeper through an example. When I say “My boss punctures my confidence in meetings”, do I mean my boss has a pin in his hand and he pricks that on me? Is there a physical pain in my body due to the prick? Do I hear the sound of balloon bursting? What’s the drama here?

Our reality is colored by our invisible beliefs, values and expectations/needs. When my boss challenges me in meetings, he is doing something that is not harmonious with my needs. The greed of meeting our needs is the real cause of emotional hurt. Our unmet needs trigger negative feelings in us and we verbalize them as if feelings are remotely operated. Blaming others for our feelings is just like languishing in the prison that is unlocked and unguarded! Freedom is just a few feet away if we decide to walk out.

All we need is a clear awareness of our needs and the assertiveness to state our needs. When we state our needs there is a possibility of fulfilling them, rather than depending on others’ telepathic skills (to read our minds). Even if being assertive doesn’t help, at least we can be content that we left no stone unturned and make peace with reality of life.

We can break free from the prison of feelings only if we take responsibility and understand that the locus of control is within us.

We have no control on what happens to us; we can only control how we respond to the situation!

Renewing My License to Embrace Stillness & Enjoy Silence


As soon as you start to observe a mental impurity, it begins to lose its strength and slowly withers away.

~ S N Goenka

I attended a 10-day Vipassana meditation course in Aug 2014. I wrote a blog post to explain my experience. Below is the link for some background.

Starting tomorrow, I am attending a 3-day Vipassana refresher course culminating on Sunday evening. The goal is this refresher program is to get established in this meditation technique and ensure that the practitioner is doing the right things. What I learned in 10 days last year will be taught again in 3 days. But there is a big difference this time! What’s that? Keep reading…

During the course our day starts at 4AM and the last meal (you can call it dinner or snacks) is at 5PM where we get some fruits and tea. For this 3-day course, the last meal is at 11AM, yes you read it correctly! There is no food intake after 11AM and the participants will get a glass of lemon juice at 5PM. That means close to 20 hours (11AM to next morning 6.30AM) there is no food consumption! It was hard for me to digest this idea at first. After a few days I accepted this is a challenge and registered for the course.

Upon investigation I found that this process is to help participants to experience a deep meditative state and get the best experience by keeping the mind alert (and the body light). Also there is no influence of food on the mind in those 20 hours.

The course starts at 2PM tomorrow and finishes on Sunday (2nd Aug) at 5PM. This time the Bangalore Vipassana is providing individual rooms to participants. That’s a great opportunity for participants to experience privacy and avoid any sort of distractions during the course.

I am grateful to my family for their support in this adventure. Thanks to Anusha, mom & Samyak (he reminded me to pack my meditation block this morning).

I am looking forward to develop self-awareness & equanimity!

3 Days – 72 hours of Silence – 30 hours of Meditation!

Celebrating 25th Donation!


A couple weeks ago I donated a unit of blood at Rashtrothana blood bank in Bangalore. It was exciting to donate it for the 25th time. It all started way back in 1997 and this activity continues to inspire me to retain my eligibility for blood donation (health vitals & other blood parameters).

As I reiterated in my earlier blog article, there are numerous benefits to donors too. I have reaped all those benefits in the last 17 years. You can read the article below to know more.

With proper planning I could have increased the count to 50 (3 times a year for 17 years), but I didn’t. Can you guess the reason? It’s the most common reason that I have heard people offer for not donating regularly. “I am waiting for the opportunity to donate to a friend or relative”. Imagine all donors thinking like that! I took a while to come out of this veil of excuse and participate in voluntary donation camps.

When I crossed 30, I made a commitment to participate in camps or a visiting blood bank 3 times a year for this noble (and favorable) activity. Every time I talk to the staff and inquire about the supply, I realize the gap between demand & supply in India.

There are a bunch of people in my life who made a great impact and inspired me in this 17-year journey. I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to the following people. If I have missed anyone, I apologize in advance.

  • Satyamurthy – the man who donated a unit of blood to my uncle in 1995 and showed the importance of this noble service
  • My parents who unconditionally supported and took pride in my interest at the age of 18
  • Sandesh – the captain of NSS (National Service Scheme) for alerting me when the requirement came from hospitals during 1997 to 99
  • My elder brother Raghu who led by example and participated in several donations. I am sure he is close to 20 donations now!
  • My college friends Rajappa, Sharath and Abdul Shiraz who accompanied me on some of those occasions and they also donated few times
  • My colleagues at Oracle who passionately participate in camps at workplace and continue to inspire others
  • Anusha & Samyak for accompanying me to these events and making this as a family activity
  • All those people who work in blood banks and act as helping hands to people in need

I sincerely request all readers to become a voluntary donor and donate blood at least twice every year. It’s a great way to serve while we continue to live with verve!