Blood donation camp on 17th Januray 2015 (Saturday)

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On 17th January 2015 (Saturday), we (my family & some of my friends) have organized a blood donation camp. I request you to participate in this drive and make more blood relatives. One unit of your blood can be administered to 3 needy patients. This is a wonderful opportunity to serve, help and make more blood relatives!

You can also contribute as a volunteer and oversee the operations.

Location: Respro Academy [Veta English Training Center]

Bannerghatta Main Road, Bangalore – 560083

Land Mark: Opposite IIM-Bangalore Main gate

Start Time: 10AM

End Time   : 4PM

Our goal is collect 50 units on that day. So if you have read this post so far, please ensure you book your slot now!

For better execution and logistics planning, we request you to RSVP and not plan to walk in on 17th Jan 2015.

Our goal is to make your donation experience pleasant and fulfilling.

For more information and questions, please feel free send an e-mail to pramoda.vyasarao@gmail.com or call me at 98806 32291.

We also plan to create an event on Facebook to share this with a wider audience.

To know more about benefits of donating blood, please read the below article

https://pramodavyasarao.wordpress.com/2014/09/18/my-23rd-donation/

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Here’s how my mother found Mojo at work for 33 years…

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“Mojo” is that positive spirit toward what we are doing now that starts from the inside and radiates to the outside. ~ Marshall Goldsmith

As an executive coach and leadership facilitator, I meet several talented individuals who are not finding Mojo at work. In other words, they are experiencing ‘Nojo’. They may have impressive titles, attractive remuneration and cozy offices; they are missing meaning and happiness in what they do. One thing is sure, no job will promise you meaning and happiness on the offer letter. Most people find acres of diamonds in their own backyard if only they take time and search for answers. Instead of chasing the mirage of ‘dream job’, people need to take a step back and ponder about finding Mojo in their current jobs. In my personal view, happiness is inside us. If we aren’t happy with our jobs now; mostly this will continue even when switch to a new job!

Our attitude towards what we do is as important as what we do!

That’s why seasoned interviewers ask questions on candidates’ previous jobs to know their passion and contribution. How a person describes his or her current job reveals a lot!

My role model for finding meaning at work is none other than my mother. My mom worked in a bank for 33 years. During her tenure, she didn’t eye on any promotions as that involved relocating to other cities. As a result she settled with various prosaic roles in clerical and accounting departments. I remember her title as ‘Special Assistant’ for several years, without any promotion. Despite this fact that job was ‘special’ to her (she made it special). My mother was very well respected by all her colleagues and managers for her positive spirit, her desire to help others and her cheerful personality. Needless to say she found meaning and happiness in what she was doing as a special assistant. I remember once quizzing her on how she found pride and meaning in her seemingly mundane and routine role as a clerk. She said she focused on two simple things at her work place.

  • Improve processes to provide better customer experience
  • Contribute and help her colleagues become more effective

When she was focused on these two things, she aimed at something beyond her own interests. And that’s the secret of her Mojo at work. Even today she has countless colleagues (still working) who admire her help and mentorship during the early years of their careers. It’s fun to join her when she visits her home-branch once a year to produce life certificate. The warmth, respect and care expressed by her colleagues even now are a reflection of her contribution and Mojo.

My mother found Mojo at work by following the below philosophy.

Find your strengths, indulge in activities that leverage your strengths and find ways of helping others from your strengths on a daily basis

Her story has certainly influenced my attitude and approach towards work. I wish this article inspires all readers to find Mojo in what they are doing!

PS : I acknowledge the graphic from the net.

Relationship is a mirror

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All relationship is a mirror in which the mind can discover its own operations. Relationship is between oneself and other human beings, between oneself and things or property, between oneself and ideas, and between oneself and nature. ~ J Krishnamurti

Last month I attended a weekend study retreat hosted by Krishnamurti Foundation India. In this article, I have attempted to highlight one important aspect I picked from the retreat and implemented in my life. The phrase ‘relation is a mirror’ is a brilliant metaphor that paints a new picture in our brains. This phrase moves our attention from others to self in relationships. In essence, we can see ourselves in a mirror of relationships with other people.

If we pause and see our images in this mirror, it reveals everything about ourselves. These images clearly show who we are and what we do. Our beliefs, values, prejudices, biases, fears, hidden motives and choices emerge and become clear when we start seeing ourselves in the mirror of relationships.

Let me illustrate this further with a personal story. This incident happened on my way to this retreat on Thursday evening (6th November). While driving towards KFI center on Kanakapura road at 7PM, the night was dark and the road was deserted. A couple standing the roadside bus stop waved their hands to hop into my car. Since I was in a hurry, I didn’t pay much attention to drove past them.

Honestly, I didn’t think about that incident until Friday morning. When the topic of relationship mirrors surfaced, this movie instantly started running on the screen of my mind. I asked myself, why did I ignore their request and didn’t offer help? I pondered over various potential reasons.

Is it because I was afraid to put myself in a vulnerable situation? Was I uncomfortable talking to them on my way for the next 5 kilometers (my destination)? Was I uncomfortable in stopping and saying NO? Was it because no one so far has asked for a ride on a deserted road? And so on…

Probably it’s difficult to put my finger on the exact reason (there may be combinations); however I loved the process of introspection and seeing my reflections in this mirror. The mirror was a great tool to examine my own behavior. What’s important is the fruit of this self-examination. This morning another couple asked the same help and I stopped with a smile, offered to help and dropped them to the nearest bus stop on my way! Here is the best part, I felt awesome after I did this 🙂

I apologize for taking a mundane example to illustrate my experience in self-examination and behavior change. I hope that doesn’t dilute the profundity of this message from Krishnamurti.

It has been a month now after my encounter with mirrors of relationships, the excitement of self-reflection continues. Every day I learn new things about myself through all my relationships with people (at home & work), ideas, nature and things in my life!

PS : I acknowledge the picture from the net.

Mindfulness lessons from my little master

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With mindfulness, you can establish yourself in the present in order to touch the wonders of life that are available in that moment. ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

If you immerse in writings on Mindfulness, you will find three common principles endorsed by most authors.

  • Live one day at a time
  • Do one thing at a time
  • Intently focus on what you are doing NOW

My son Samyak seems to have mastered these 3 principles at a tender age of 3 J Looks like we all master the art of mindfulness during the first 6 years of our life. As we grow further, we slowly unlearn this way of life and pick up habits of distraction, multi-tasking and escapism from the NOW.

When I tell Samyak about our weekend plan and announce that we would watch an animated movie on Saturday morning, he instantly asks ‘are we doing it NOW?’ For him any activity has to happen today and now! No concept of past and future, the only moment available is NOW.

Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today is a gift and that’s why it’s called the present.

I am amazed at his ability to focus on one thing at a time; the above picture says it all. You can see his intense focus and dedication in making chapati (Indian bread) for us. Nothing in this world distracts him when he is occupied with something, totally submerged in one activity. For adults, the biggest challenge is to focus on one thing among myriad of distractions. We pay the price through ineffective results.

Lately there has been a tremendous amount of research on mindful eating. With mindful eating we can enjoy every morsel we put in our mouth. Interestingly we tend to eat less when we are fully aware of what and how we are eating. Instead of counting calories we should count the number of times we chew food! I have been trying my luck with mindful eating [trust me, not an easy task]. The task seems onerous as I keep slipping back to mindless eating 🙂

It appears to me that the art of mindful eating is also innate in children. The below picture was taken at Mysore Zoo last weekend.

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I bought an Ice candy for him and we started walking towards our next stop at the Zoo. He announced, ‘let’s eat this first and then walk’. He sat there for 15 minutes to relish that and enjoyed every bite of that Ice candy. Interestingly he didn’t even utter a single word till he finished eating. By the way, latest studies also echo the tradition of not talking while eating.

There is so much to learn from children just by being with them. They subtly make us aware of things that we ignore as grown up men. It reminds of the quote ‘Child is father of the man’.

Accomplishment and Acknowledgement

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What’s driving your achievements? The sense of accomplishment or the need for acknowledgement.

One of the traps of human behavior and quest for success is misunderstanding the driver behind our actions. Our actions may be either inspired by the internal drive to please our souls; or motivated to hear the external praise showered by other people. Appreciation from other people will make us feel proud about our feats, however we shouldn’t allow that to take the center stage and take influence our actions all the time.

For instance, when you learn a new skill (say swimming); you feel great about your new achievement and you feel like a winner who can learn anything! This victorious feeling is ‘soul-feeling’. It’s not dependent on anyone’s acknowledgement.

A student scores high in an exam and then subsequently gets recognized in public. This student also feels like a victor, but this feeling is colored by ego and comparison due to the recognition in public. This colored feeling is ‘worldly-feeling’.

These feelings are diametrically opposite in their power, source and direction. Soul feeling is centered in us and oozes out; worldly feeling is pumped into us through others’ words of appreciation. Craving for worldly feeling is addictive and dangerous since it derails us from our own cherished goals and passions. For example, an author must write great books because of his calling. He will derail from his path if his goal becomes writing the best-seller. Even if it becomes a best-seller, not everyone on this planet will like his work.

Now with the hope that I have given enough description about this concept, let me narrate a personal story to drive the point home. I write articles on my blog to share my insights and thoughts on areas of human potential and achievement. Writing these articles, make me feel on purpose and bring in a sense of peace and calmness as I let my thoughts flow and shape into words. Imagine, if this act of blogging is driven by the desire to get more ‘Likes’ on Facebook or LinkedIn and acknowledging comments by people in my network. Appreciative comments are only by-products of my activity, not catalysts! I should write posts regardless of external acknowledgement and praise because the act is driven by soul-feeling.

At times, we all fall into the trap and lose track of soul-feelings and start running behind worldly-feelings. Only with awareness we can come back on the path of action towards soul-feelings. For instance, my blog post in Jun 2014 titled ‘Calm Sutra : 60 seconds to relax our brain’ was a useful article [in my view] and not many people read that J The next day I realized I was moving away from my original reason for writing. My core reasons to write are to share what I know and help people who need. I also need to aware of this every time I write an article.

So my friends, are you aware of what’s driving your achievements in life? Accomplishment (soul-feeling) or acknowledgement (worldly-feeling)? A healthy balance is the key!

References: Are you read to succeed? By Dr Sri Kumar Rao [specially the words soul-feeling and worldly-feeling come from his book]

PS : I acknowledge the pictures from the internet.