Ask and you shall receive


Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. ~ The Bible

I was in a training program today at a hotel and they asked me to pay for using the wi-fi service at the venue. Usually in hotels the guest speaker or trainer gets a complementary coupon to use the wi-fi facility. The banquet manager said, ‘we always charge, no exceptions’. I politely asked him to consider my request as we were giving a significant business to him that day. He took a few minutes and agreed to waive off INR 1000/- from the total bill amount!

That’s a great personal victory to me! I just reflected on my past and I realized that a few years ago I wouldn’t have pursued such matters and asked with earnestness. I felt asking has no use, especially when I get a NO – it made me feel awful. To avoid that feeling, I avoided asking 🙂 I said NO to myself before the other person.

I wondered – what changed in these years ? Suddenly I got the picture of this book from Jack Canfield I read called ‘ The Success Principles’. Canfield talks about ‘The Power of Asking’ and he recommends the following steps when it comes to asking for what you need (I have added my interpretation).

                                                  Success Principles

  1. Ask the right person – who has the authority to take decisions
  2. Ask with the attitude that you have the ‘right’ to ask
  3. Ask with the expectation that you will get what you asked for
  4. Genuinely ‘Thank’ the other person when he says YES
  5. Accept and relax when the other person says NO

These steps had become my unconscious habits after attempting some of these steps separately over a few years. That’s what I say to people – when it comes to personal development you never know what book can help change your behaviors. Read and Grow Rich!

                                           Keep asking and you will get what you want!

3 thoughts on “Ask and you shall receive

  1. This is awesome.. 🙂 even I used to think in the same way…!
    Recently I changed myself.. nowadays I keep asking for what I want.., even if I get ‘NO’…, I don’t have any regrets…,

  2. 🙂 It reflects my weakness. I never bargain, I never negotiate and I never attempt to ask where I assume things wont work in my favor. I should rethink about my this attitude.kudos!!!

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